The Proposal

By Alison July 14, 2011 37 Comments 4 Min Read

There comes a time in every blogger’s life when she feels she isn’t up to telling like it was: when she does not feel capable of doing a story enough justice to offer it the meaningful place in her personal history to which it belongs.
And so it is with the proposal.
When we first started discussing getting married, Rich and I quizzed  every married couple we knew: how did he propose? Was it wonderful? Was it special? Were you surprised? Did you choose your own ring? And the lovely people we knew told us stories funny and happy, sad and unexpected. Proposals ruined by over-zealous passport controllers, proposals delivered in bed; outside the jewellers window; up mountains, on the Sydney Harbour Bridge and in fancy restaurants across the land.
Then Richard asked me where my dream proposal should be, and I had no right answer beyond, where I’m happiest.

On Saturday morning we woke up early, pulled on our yuckiest painting clothes and nipped into town to buy a shower rail. It was raining. Richard had white gloss up his arms and I had a hole in my top. Three hours later we had a shower rail, a birthday card for a little girl called Amelia, a cheese and onion sandwich each and a classically beautiful diamond solitaire ring, the kind middle aged ladies in the jewellers had had re-sized to fit my awkward finger…
Or else let me re-phrase that: In the pocket of his shorts, Richard was carrying a classically beautiful diamond solitaire ring and I was carrying a cheese butty, because there had been no proposal and according to Rich there wasn’t going to be a proposal for a very long time to come. Oh, and just to confound my distress I wasn’t to tell a single soul about our twinkly secret.
For at least a few minutes, dear Reader, let it be understood I could barely fathom why a person would want to marry the kind of person who saw fit to dangle a glittery carrot in front of her face before snatching it away and swearing her to secrecy. I am after all the kind of woman barely able to hold her own water let alone hold in something quite so delicious as a quasi-engagment complete with ring.

And yet, I managed to behave myself. Though we were soon after summoned to a pretty pub garden in the kind of terribly English village that would take your breath away to sup afternoon gin with my Mum and Dad, and my Mums sister Barbie and her husband Steve, still let it be known that I kept my mouth firmly zipped and my hand resting on the ring box anyone with half a brain would have been able to have seen outlined in his pocket.
Darlings I said nothing. Though he teased me all the way back to Mum’s house. Though he whisperd sweet nothings about glittery somethings whenever everyone left the room, and though keeping secrets is about as alien to me as wearing a leopard skin thong, still I kept my mouth shut.

And then it was nine thirty and we had eaten roast chicken and salad in the garden and all the chairs had been carried in and much wine drunk and Finley had retired to Mum’s front room with Richard, to to practise drawing apples, and Barbie and Mum were laughing and I was cosy in the bosom of my family. Cosy and happy.
When in came Finley, shushing the grown ups as he stood in front of me, shouting in his little seven year old voice for everyone to be quiet and looking at me with eyes as big as egg cups. And I looked at him and he looked at me, and Rich leaned forward and put his head on my shoulder, as my little boy opened up the box containing my ring and said… Mummy will you marry Richard?
Readers I was floored. Totally and utterly, beautifully floored.  I cried and said yes to my son, and then I cried and said yes to my Richard and then he told my Dad there was a bottle of champagne stashed in the salad drawer, and Dad made an impromptu speech which to my blurry memory seemed to be all about how wonderful RICHARD is, and then we all drank to happiness and our tomorrows.
I told him to propose to my where I’m happiest and he couldn’t have got it more right. All that and a memory that puts my little boy right at the heart of my forthcoming marriage.
I couldn’t be happier. I love them both so much.


  1. Valerie says:

    How wonderful. Congratulations to you and your family!

  2. Gena says:

    Oh Be still my beating heart! this is just wonderful,wishing you all the happiness in the world xxx

  3. Carol M says:

    How beautiful! I'm typing through tears. Richard couldn't have picked a more perfect proposal.

  4. Oh … in tears… that was just exactly right. Love the darling photos of your fellas.

  5. Terrie says:

    Oh my, I'm all emotional. How amazingly perfect! Your two men are cuties too – love those curls!

  6. JANE ELLIOT says:

    omg!!! I started to fill up half way through reading this and was sobbing by the end, (with joy) that has to be the most perfect proposal. I wish you all the happiness , laughter and joy that me and my husband have had in the last 11 yrs.

  7. Heather says:

    I'm in tears as well. Thank you for sharing that touching scene with us. I'm so happy for your happiness.

  8. Lynn Kane says:

    How lovely xxx

  9. Sally Hackney says:

    I read this twice with happy tears in my eyes. What a perfect moment to begin a wonderful adventure. Enjoy! Sally

  10. Love, Mimi xxx says:

    Oh! Happy tears! What a tease he was, but oh, I can forgive him for being so beautifully thoughtful!

  11. Helena says:

    What a lovely, sweet way to propose. Thank you for sharing, and best wishes to you both, and your precious little boy as well. 🙂

  12. Debbi says:

    So perfectly happy for you! Richard certainly gets points for the sweetest propsal I've ever heard!

  13. Dori says:

    : ) Absolutely perfect!

  14. Debbie says:

    What a wonderful proposal, and many congratulations to all three of you! I am a long time lurker of, oh it must be five years or more. Long, long time. I have been following all your trials and tribulations for many years and it so wonderful to see you find happiness with Richard! (I found my own Mr Wonderful at the age of 40 and we married in April. Life is good!) xxx

  15. Irishwifey says:

    Oh I cried too. Richard is a keeper, methinks. All the best to the three of you.

  16. Carlie says:

    Good heavens woman! That was amazing! And Richard is a very handsome man! I don't know if it could have been more perfect. Thanks for sharing…and for the pictures. 🙂

  17. Sasha says:

    Perfect, just perfect. xxx

  18. Emily Jane says:

    Oh my goodness Alison! This is such a lovely story with such a romantic man! I could see it coming as I read, but was still delightfully surprised at the end when Finn asked you. I am so happy for you and I wish you all the love and kindness and hope and wonderfulness anyone could hope for in this life. Sounds like you have it made darlin'. Congrats!

  19. Tracelaine says:

    Your heart must be welling over. Instead of just tepidly accepting the woman's kid to be able to have the woman, Richard seems to love Finley as that wonderful extension of you. Finley is so lucky to have a man around that has dedicated himself to loving mummy and making him feel special and loved, too. The first picture is really adorable – it makes me think of Richard's road to becoming Finley's role model, protector, and buddy. I am so very happy for you, Alison, that you have found such a wonderul man to love you, who is obviously patient and understanding – and oh so Smart to grab the package deal he saw because you are a gem! …not to mention how resourceful, helpful, romantic and cute he is!

  20. Wendy says:

    Oh, Alison! This is more touching than you know! What a way to begin a long and lovely life together. Thank you for sharing your story. And yes, I had tears as well.
    I have always said that men who have a sense of humor make great husbands, given the fact that mine did almost the same thing 21 years ago. Welcome to the club, you're in for the ride of your life!

  21. Barbara says:

    A moment you will treasure forever. Perfect. Love to all three of you.

  22. Lesley says:

    Oh Alison, that's just wonderful! What a wonderful proposal, a wonderful man, a wonderful child, and a wonderful life await you. I'm so thrilled (and thank you so much for your comment on my blog ;-)0 xxx

  23. So glad you shared that story! Just lovely! And your son is just adorable! I want his hair! (Richard's cute too, but I don't want HIS hair!)

  24. Imogen Hope says:

    Wow, beautiful story, what a wonderful thoughtful man. Tears of joy for you! xxx

  25. Lucy says:

    Oh Alison, you are so deserving of this! Congratulations and all good wishes for your lives together x x x

  26. Diane says:

    How awesome 🙂 Richard is cute!! and he looks kind. How lucky is he to get you and darling Finn?? Diane

  27. Hana says:

    Congratulations Alison! What a wonderful story… had me in tears! (happy tears)

  28. Linda says:

    What a divine way to propose! I am so happy for y'all and glad to see pics of handsome Richard. Details please…what kind of publishing is he in? Can he stay with his job? Likewise can Finley keep his neighborhood and school?

  29. Linda says:

    What a divine way to propose! I am so happy for y'all and glad to see pics of handsome Richard. Details please…what kind of publishing is he in? Can he stay with his job? Likewise can Finley keep his neighborhood and school?

  30. Rachael says:

    Congratulations..the icing on the cake for what is clearly a very happy family!! Love to you all x x x

  31. Nicola says:

    Welcome to the engaged club! I'm so excited to see your ideas on weddings, I'm still at a complete loss on ours!
    (On another note, I disappeared again, oops! I missed everyone!)

  32. Laura says:

    What a wonderful way to propose! I was also a single mom, and I married a man that loved my daughter as his own. It has been 7 wonderful years, and he is still the kindest, funniest, most wonderful man that I have ever met. I wish you as much friendship, partnership, love, and deep joy as my sweet man and I have had!

  33. Krista says:

    Awwwwww! I'm all in tears. 😉 Congratulations!

  34. Anna Marie says:

    You found the right guy! I wish all three of you all the happiness in the world.

  35. Joanne says:

    OH MY GOD! I've only just read this! Congratulations, Alison! (And, of course, to Richard.) You had me crying with the way the proposal happened – utterly perfect! I am SO happy for you.

  36. Bluebell says:

    Happiest Days! enjoy every minute. Xx

  37. Jane says:

    Oh many congratulations, Alison, Richard and Finlay! I'm so thrilled for you. xxx

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