It isn’t possible to ignore it. Many of you will have followed the conversation in the comments box of one of my recent posts and though I don’t intend to offer an opinion one way or the other (I honestly think both sides of the argument have truth in them) and see no reason to censor such discussion, I have to be honest and tell you that to find yourself discussed in such a manner is both disconcerting and akin to finding yourself being pyscho-analysed without the extortionate fees!
In 2004, when I first created
Somewhere along the way, I think you will agree, I lost direction. Partly because of turbulence in my private life and partly because an ego like mine finds a captive audience to my own personal dramas so utterly compelling! Ladies I suspect I have created a monster : a monster shaping the pattern of my life in more ways than I am willing to admit…
Last week a man fell half in love with this illusory me. The much blogged about Alison. And yet when I sat in front of him, all too human, with conversation that doesn’t flow like the words I type here, my much mentioned big bum and no doubt, some weird way of conducting myself people are too polite to mention: I suspect I came out wanting. It doesn’t matter. Of course it doesn’t. He was lovely but I don’t know him from Adam. The point is that before he met me he imagined me to be somebody I am not. He came over all foolish about the woman he imagined me to be, and I too started to believe in her. I let myself be vulnerable and in the process let myself be hurt. Enough said.
I know I reveal too much. I understand that it is not the way of the world. That for the most other people play their cards closer to their chest. I know it. I do. But when telling the whole world who you are, (without being certain that they can read between the lines) is second nature to you, it is very, very difficult to draw the line, analyse what you are writing and truly see exactly what persona you are presenting to any given audience. And then you find yourself the subject of a discussion that on the one hand sticks knives in your vulnerable, silly, heart and the other reveals the truth about who you are letting yourself become and you understand for the first time that you have no choice but to re-trace your steps, find the place on the map you were stood when the wind blew the wrong way and start all over again.
So Housekeepers I am taking us back to the roots of
I do hope you understand and I truly hope you will enjoy the third age of
Thoughts please?
Menu
I think that whatever way you want to go is fine with us. As long as you are enjoying it, you can bet your bottom dollar that we will too. Here's to the third age (she says raising a lovely china cup of tea!)
🙁
I love your blog just the way it is and love hearing about your life. The good bits, the bad bits and all the bits in between! It is sad that through people's mindless comments and frankly, bitchines, you are having to re-evaluate the way you write and run your lovely business that is BrocanteHome. The best thing about your blog is that it is real and you write from the heart without trying to wrap it up in so much cotton wool that is unbelievable (like some other blogs do). Don't change a thing Alison-that is my opinion!
xxx
I understand your decision, and think it is the right thing to do… we all spend enough time worrying what people will think of us in the "real" world without having to worry about the unreal world! Looking forward to lots more brocante home loveliness in the future!
I understand your decision, and think it is the right thing to do… we all spend enough time worrying what people will think of us in the "real" world without having to worry about the unreal world! Looking forward to lots more brocante home loveliness in the future!
You are who you are hun, boy or girl we all get hurt along the rocky road of life, it aint just a female thing but you know that.
Dont change your stance on life, your wants or needs, think of the guy you met last week and how frre and easy and honest it was, no lies, no complications, better to have met……an all that !
Take care hun, I'll always keep popping back.
C x
Alison, I am truly sorry if anything I have written has upset you or made you feel uncomfortable. For me it was a theoretical discussion; I didn't intend anything hurtful but it must have been very disconcerting for you. I am always putting my foot in it.
This is your blog and you should write whatever you damn well please.
Take care of yourself.
x
I love your blog the way it is, and will love it with the new housekeepers planners and vintage recipes. I just love you "warts and all" -we all have those "warts" that makes us, us.
I love your blog the way it is, and will love it with the new housekeepers planners and vintage recipes. I just love you "warts and all" -we all have those "warts" that makes us, us.
Alison, BrocanteHome is your baby. Take care of it with whatever is your heart's desire. I look forward everyday to see what it is you want to express, always thoughtfully, beautifully, and wonderously real. You have helped me fall in love again with all that is Homekeeping. Thank you for a lovely place to visit.
Alison, the bottom line is it's your blog. You can write about WHATEVER you want! It absolutely amazes me that people are writng such things in the comments section. Get a life people!
Hugs to you, Alison!
Alison, the bottom line is it's your blog. You can write about WHATEVER you want! It absolutely amazes me that people are writng such things in the comments section. Get a life people!
Hugs to you, Alison!
I read your blog because it is so unashamedly honest. Pointing out that this is YOUR blog and you can write whatever your little heart desires is a moot point as you know this. Your housekeeping mandates encouraged me to find the blessings in keeping my own home true to my way of life for which I'm ever so grateful. I enjoy that part of your blog, too. Watching Finley's growth has been a joy and very amusing at times. Watching your growth as a person in your own right has also been a joy. I understand if you no longer want to share your personal tidbits anymore but want you to know that you have helped me appreciate my own dark side as well as my positive fun-loving side. Thank you for all the blessings you have graciously bestowed on me and my life as I, too, evolve to be the person I am.
Alison,
In the many years of my living on this planet I have come to find that there are people on it who can only feel good about themselves by pointing an ugly finger at others. That being said I want you to know that I eagerly look forward to reading your blog each and every day. As a displaced Brit living in Canada I wonder if Miss "Jellybean" has an understanding of the humour of the English? …Self deprecatory…a great ability to laugh at oneself, to point the finger inwards and have a good chuckle?!!! Perhaps she is just ignorant of the English sensibility?
Alison we love you for who you are, your lovely stories and anecdotes keep us all coming back for more. Those who choose to judge should just look elsewhere, not saying they don't have a right to an opinion, but really was it appropriate to air that private dirty laundry bit of "advice" for all to see?
Perhaps waiting until you righted your e-mail problem to send her "advice" might have been a better decision. We all saw the nastiness that spewed from the "sugary" miss J. Maybe she needs to be pointing the finger inwards…???
Rockymountain mama.
Oh Alison…. I must just say I stand behind your decision because I do not actually have a blog, so I have no idea how if feels to become such a part of your life like it does… BUT I LOVE HEARING ABOUT ALL YOUR daily tribulations! When I see Martha or the others, they don't seem REAL or they must be loaded with nannies and maids and a car to pick them up. It is inspiring to see your life, your talent, the way your words bring me ( laughingly or woefully ) from New Jersey all the way to your little town. We are all right behind you because we are like you! Sometimes as I read along I imagine a movie on the screen….Bridget Jones move over …. I am serious here… how FABULOUS would a screenplay be for you to write… ??? You must dream big, really BIG.
looking forward to all future posts ( even though I don't cook ) take care and thank you for revealing the real you, so like so many of us reading. xx oo nina
Oh Alison…. I must just say I stand behind your decision because I do not actually have a blog, so I have no idea how if feels to become such a part of your life like it does… BUT I LOVE HEARING ABOUT ALL YOUR daily tribulations! When I see Martha or the others, they don't seem REAL or they must be loaded with nannies and maids and a car to pick them up. It is inspiring to see your life, your talent, the way your words bring me ( laughingly or woefully ) from New Jersey all the way to your little town. We are all right behind you because we are like you! Sometimes as I read along I imagine a movie on the screen….Bridget Jones move over …. I am serious here… how FABULOUS would a screenplay be for you to write… ??? You must dream big, really BIG.
looking forward to all future posts ( even though I don't cook ) take care and thank you for revealing the real you, so like so many of us reading. xx oo nina
Dont change a thing my friend! how utterly unkind was the original comment which started the ball rolling! like most women here, I check your blog daily, I really do care about how you are and what you are doing, the hints and tips are lovely, but so are the bits about your days,we have laughed and cried with you, and nodded in agreement at your words,in short I really look forward to reading your blog!hope Finn is feeling better by the way.xx
While I love hearing about the day to day trials we all share in – I do understand and I am excited about what is planned for the blog.
While I love hearing about the day to day trials we all share in – I do understand and I am excited about what is planned for the blog.
Alison,
I read your blog every day since June 2006. I found it by chance – I was looking for a natural cleaner recipe on Google. What a discovery! A charming, elegant blog, with pretty inspiring images, written by a smart, witty, all too human woman! You see, it's not so much what you write about – cooking, cleaning, dating, Finley – it's the way you write about those topics – with charm, humour and vulnerability. No matter what you chose to write about, we will always see bits of your soul in every post. Because our dreams, even those that never come true, are part of who we are. So dating or housekeeping? It makes no difference to me. Good luck with the third age of Brocante Home.
Keep on keeping on with what you're comfortable in sharing Alison – the thing that ALL of us readers need to bear in mind (both syrupy and snarky lol) is that this is a REAL life – not Bridget Jones or some fictional yummy-mummy series. I don't blame you for adding a bit of arm's length for your own sake and that of your little 'un for that matter.
I've been reading your blog for a couple of months and totally admire and respect your writing skills and abilities in every way. Where you draw the line between sharing your homemaking tips and your life lessons is up to you. The line between them can be blurred for sure.
Maybe you could do two blogs – one for the homemaker in you and one for the you writer in you who wants to come out and play. At least from what I've observed.
Or enter the third age as you've suggested.
What sounds like the most fun for you?
Wow! I absolutely LOVE your site. There is none other as beautiful and inspiring as Brocante Home. I must admit, I have loved the openess and all that you have shown online. How I long for friendships with other women that are formed from the same vulneralbility (something I have dearly missed since my Moms passing).
I know from experience that one can allow themselves to be more open and honest online than they may ever find themselves to be in person. In fact, that is how I found my soulmate 3000 miles away nearly 8 years ago. However, I also know how others can interfere with their gossipy opinions which is why I seldom chat online today. I wholeheartedly understand your need to hold back a bit. I wish you all the love and happiness you deserve, and will continue to be inspired by this "scrumptious" site 🙂
Wow! I absolutely LOVE your site. There is none other as beautiful and inspiring as Brocante Home. I must admit, I have loved the openess and all that you have shown online. How I long for friendships with other women that are formed from the same vulneralbility (something I have dearly missed since my Moms passing).
I know from experience that one can allow themselves to be more open and honest online than they may ever find themselves to be in person. In fact, that is how I found my soulmate 3000 miles away nearly 8 years ago. However, I also know how others can interfere with their gossipy opinions which is why I seldom chat online today. I wholeheartedly understand your need to hold back a bit. I wish you all the love and happiness you deserve, and will continue to be inspired by this "scrumptious" site 🙂
Oh Alison, blast it all……write what you bloody want to write about: and don't worry!!
We all have our crazy, silly little lives, and I for one (although praying frantically) will not apologize. I certainly don't expect you too.
It keeps me sane reading about other crazy women's lives! And I love every book you pick…and your son is adorable! And although I am sure my bum is just as big as yours *gasping for both of us!* who cares???? *smiles like a sheep!*
Whatever you decide, I am sure I will adore!
Be blessed!
Your's is the only blog I truly look forward to day after day. It touches my heart and my soul to read about someone who strives for the beautiful things but who has just as many road blocks thrown in her way as the rest of us. It's comforting to read about a real woman. Not the cookie cutter idea of one. Keep up the good work and don't get discouraged. My thoughts are with you.
Oh Allison, You are fabulous just the way you are. If you feel you must distance your personal life from your blog, would you ever consider writing a book? It could even be fiction – I just so enjoy your style, charm, and vivaciousness. I know others do too.
Oh Allison, You are fabulous just the way you are. If you feel you must distance your personal life from your blog, would you ever consider writing a book? It could even be fiction – I just so enjoy your style, charm, and vivaciousness. I know others do too.
Oh Allison, You are fabulous just the way you are. If you feel you must distance your personal life from your blog, would you ever consider writing a book? It could even be fiction – I just so enjoy your style, charm, and vivaciousness. I know others do too.
Each of us is not entirely "ourselves" when we are at our job. In fact, I would say that we have different faces and personalities depending on where we are and who we are with. This site is, as you have said, your main source of income. I LOVE your words and I love the things you feature here. Don't change too much, please. Yes, you open the door for comments and just as each of us is entitled to be ugly in our comments, you are entitled to be however you choose to represent your mood at that time. Sometimes, I'm even ugly to my very loved children. Don't take it personally, Alison. What is romantic to one may be whiny to another. Mood and perspective can change daily. You're lovely and I enjoy ALL your words here.
Each of us is not entirely "ourselves" when we are at our job. In fact, I would say that we have different faces and personalities depending on where we are and who we are with. This site is, as you have said, your main source of income. I LOVE your words and I love the things you feature here. Don't change too much, please. Yes, you open the door for comments and just as each of us is entitled to be ugly in our comments, you are entitled to be however you choose to represent your mood at that time. Sometimes, I'm even ugly to my very loved children. Don't take it personally, Alison. What is romantic to one may be whiny to another. Mood and perspective can change daily. You're lovely and I enjoy ALL your words here.
I only found your blog recently, but enjoy it. I believe you should blog about what you want to blog about. I sometimes find myself "mentally editing" what I'm going to post on my blog, and have to fight the urge to do that.
People can get their own blogs and do as they wish with them. They're readily available – for free. Make your blog the way you want it to be and the people who are interested will find you!
Alison, I'll tell you what a wise friend told me about any of life's problems. Just trust your intuition and do what would make you happiest. It's good to feel good. Make the best decision you can make and move on. Even if you decide not to put them out for public review, keep asking yourself those personal questions and looking for answers wherever they may appear. And if you decide someday you want reveal the "hidden" Alison again, somebody below made an excellent suggestion. Maybe keep Brocante Home open for the fun, "puttery" stuff and start a separate blog for more serious things. It's good that you're so open; don't close off, maybe just find or create a different outlet for that openness, where it's clear what kind of interaction you're looking for. The fact that you've gotten something positive from all of this shows that you're headed in the right direction. Just don't be discouraged by the negative stuff, and keep turning it around to your good. Whatever decision you arrive at will be the right decision for you.
Alison, I'll tell you what a wise friend told me about any of life's problems. Just trust your intuition and do what would make you happiest. It's good to feel good. Make the best decision you can make and move on. Even if you decide not to put them out for public review, keep asking yourself those personal questions and looking for answers wherever they may appear. And if you decide someday you want reveal the "hidden" Alison again, somebody below made an excellent suggestion. Maybe keep Brocante Home open for the fun, "puttery" stuff and start a separate blog for more serious things. It's good that you're so open; don't close off, maybe just find or create a different outlet for that openness, where it's clear what kind of interaction you're looking for. The fact that you've gotten something positive from all of this shows that you're headed in the right direction. Just don't be discouraged by the negative stuff, and keep turning it around to your good. Whatever decision you arrive at will be the right decision for you.
Alison, I like that you don't have come across as perfect. I love reading your blog simply because you are so normal. The day you wrote about eating bad food in a pub was priceless because we've all been there. That kind of writing is a rare gift. Best of luck in whatever you do.
I have always enjoyed reading your blog and reading your views on life and housekeeping in general. I'll keep on coming back here no matter what – keep smiling 🙂
I have always enjoyed reading your blog and reading your views on life and housekeeping in general. I'll keep on coming back here no matter what – keep smiling 🙂
I've been reading your blog with great pleasure for the last few months, though I must say I missed the kerfuffle you mentioned. After reading this post, and skimming the comments in the other one, I'm going to offer a little free advice (Which you can take or leave; I have no investment in either.)
I've been blogging in one form or another for a lot of years, and one thing I know is that my blog is mine. That may sound pretty simplistic, but what I mean is that I don't blog for other people, I blog for me. What I say in it is what I want to say. I don't temper my political opinions to suit my readers, or edit my private life. When I decided to start an online business, the first thing I did was to start a new blog which would represent that business, and keep it separate from my personal stuff. That was just a choice I decided to make because it made me more comfortable for, oh, a gazillion reasons, really. Even so, personal things do enter into the mix, and I wouldn't have it any other way because I think readers and potential customers should know who they're dealing with. And there are links there to my other sites. I'm not hiding anything, just compartmentalizing out of a sense of professionalism.
What all this blithering is about is one basic fact: You determine exactly what will or won't go into your blog. No one else should have a say. Anyone who thinks otherwise needs to get an attitude adjustment. You do this because you love it, not for money or prestige or any other tangible return, so why on earth should anyone else make you feel as if you're not doing it right?
I suspect you're probably too much of a lady to tell people to get off your back, or to say, "Look, no one is twisting your arm to read me, why don't you just sod off?" (I'm not as you might have guessed. *g*) But I say be yourself, whatever that entails.
I really love all the advice and photos and book recommendations that I find here. It inspires me.
I also like hearing about you, because I like the "you" I find here and I love to hear stories about Finn.
I think you're brave to share so much, but if you want to pull back some, that's perfectly understandable too.
Brocante home is a wonderful place to visit and I very much appreciate your sharing it.
God bless!
Terri
I really love all the advice and photos and book recommendations that I find here. It inspires me.
I also like hearing about you, because I like the "you" I find here and I love to hear stories about Finn.
I think you're brave to share so much, but if you want to pull back some, that's perfectly understandable too.
Brocante home is a wonderful place to visit and I very much appreciate your sharing it.
God bless!
Terri
Allison, I have been reading your blog for a little over a year now and it's the highlight of my day. When you don't write for a day or two or more, I wonder what you and your babba have been up to, what I'm missing out on. Being a stay at home mom is hard, the transition was hard for me, but you have been my constant reminder that there is such peace and happiness in the simple things in life, that admist the chaos of children, and partners, and daily drama, there is comfort in lavendar scented sheets, snuggles in bed with a good book and a wet haired toddler, and chocolate cake. Your authenticity is inspiring. It's no wonder that Sarah knows you, and like her, you are touching many lives, certainly my own, with your writing. I look forward to Brocante Home's continuation in however you see fit. To thy own self be true.
Well, I just love ya' and you know it.
I am sorry for getting my dander up on the other thread but I am NOT sorry for defending you. Some people just don't have as much class as you do and it won't go unnoticed if they judge or attack you. Look at all your comments and how many of us love you and what you do.
You know we are here and we love hearing about your life, we look forward to your victories and joys and virtually hug you when life throws you a curve ball.
That won't change. And you shouldn't either.
Be yourself…your wonderful, funny, sometimes goofy self with the adorable babba!
Well, I just love ya' and you know it.
I am sorry for getting my dander up on the other thread but I am NOT sorry for defending you. Some people just don't have as much class as you do and it won't go unnoticed if they judge or attack you. Look at all your comments and how many of us love you and what you do.
You know we are here and we love hearing about your life, we look forward to your victories and joys and virtually hug you when life throws you a curve ball.
That won't change. And you shouldn't either.
Be yourself…your wonderful, funny, sometimes goofy self with the adorable babba!
I have read your blog almost daily since 2005 and have read all your wonderful words and even before you "lost direction" as you say, although I would disagree on the lost direction part. I feel that I know you and that you are a kindred spirit. I did not get involved in that psycho-babble because it so obviously was ridiculous, but I hope hope hope hope hope with all my heart that you will not let someone else's comments and opinions, even if they were well intended, shape your image of yourself and make you change part of your life. Although I LOVE the vintage housekeepers fun stuff, I still LOVE hearing about your life and you. Please don't punish the rest of us who love the Alison we read about daily by withholding part of her from your friends.
Kisses and hugs of encouragement across the ocean!
Amber
Hey Alison,
I really think you should keep writing what you need to say and I'll tell you why. You see, people like you have the gift of writing. Your gift is evolving and you shouldn't stop this process. I think one day you may find yourself writing a book.
If someone doesn't want to read what you want to say, they don't have to read it. But it sounds to me like you have an audience that really appreciates and identifies with what you have to say.
So don't change what you are doing. It's where your talent is takng you. Honor it. It's what you're supposed to do with a talent.
à ta santé,
Denise
Don't analyse,don't doubt,don't second guess a thing! Just go with it.Do what ever you feel like.Life isn't always what we thought it would be.You are a living,breathing, constantly changing being. You reflect that in what you write.Believe in yourself Alison, i do.You are a tremendous inspiration to me in so many ways. One day ill tell you all about it.But for now just be you.
Don't analyse,don't doubt,don't second guess a thing! Just go with it.Do what ever you feel like.Life isn't always what we thought it would be.You are a living,breathing, constantly changing being. You reflect that in what you write.Believe in yourself Alison, i do.You are a tremendous inspiration to me in so many ways. One day ill tell you all about it.But for now just be you.
Alison, Do as you wish, but I must say I would be so disappointed not to have a little window into your world. I love to hear what you have been up to warts and all. It reminds me that we are all normal and we all have out little disasters whether it be men or mayo!
I hope Fin is feeling better, my one quite gruesome claim to fame is that when I had Mumps, I was so sick that Mum and Dad replaced the carpet, it was easier than cleaning it!
Actually, I think you've started the book… the rough draft is here 😉
Actually, I think you've started the book… the rough draft is here 😉
In my country there is a
saying:
Stay who you are,
there are already so
many others!
No need to change, you are
okay!
We will all still love and visit your blog no matter what direction you choose to take. Your writing is inspiring, funny, sad and comforting all at once. Don't ever stop being you, you seem like a wonderful person!
We will all still love and visit your blog no matter what direction you choose to take. Your writing is inspiring, funny, sad and comforting all at once. Don't ever stop being you, you seem like a wonderful person!
Keep it real Alison, that's what I say 🙂
I personally would love to see more recipes and planners — but I just hope that you still give us little peeks into your life. That has always been the most interesting part of your website, at least to me.
Take care Ali.
I personally would love to see more recipes and planners — but I just hope that you still give us little peeks into your life. That has always been the most interesting part of your website, at least to me.
Take care Ali.
A blog is a type of diary – albeit most of the time with a creative glaze and hence not a true reflection of reality – but nevertheless, that is the format and that is why they are so popular. A blog is not some sort of tabloid press that people should get on their high horses and make moral ssumptions about! Blimey! Some people have lost all perspective here! It's madness. But also very interesting. Because those who make elaborate psycho-analytical, moral-high-ground postings are actually the ones who shake off the creative glaze and really do allow us to peer into THEIR psyche – because they mean every word they say! For all Jellybean knows you could be some doddery old male novelist writing from the confines of his retirement home!
Keep it going Ali! Art is judged not by the object itself but about the reaction it provokes – and you're certainly doing that. Hell, keep going! Make stuff up! Make it juicier, more shocking, more thought provoking! You're getting the reaction and so you are winning. Those who sit at their computers and stamp out moral advice on their keyboards as though they are contributing to society might just as well go stand in front of a sculpture in an art gallery and shout expletives to express their indignation! And actually believe they can change the form they see before them! In liverpool there is a huge papier mache sculpture of a bright yellow half sheep half bananan that sits on the dock. As a piece of art it is fairly controversial both in what it represents and how it looks. There was uproar in Liverpool when it was erected. And from that moment the artist had succeeded. He had provoked a reaction – a mixed reaction – but noevertheless a reaction. And that is what you have done here – so give yourself a big pat on the back and keep up the good work!
You little sis.
xxx
Alison, I really think you should keep Brocante home as it is. Obviously I wouldn’t mind more house keeping hints and tips as you are so good at those, but I also love the insights into your life, even the crazy bits. Especially the crazy bits actually! I also went through some relationship issues last year and I really felt I had a kindred spirit in you. Reading how you were and are coping really helped me along. Your writing is so funny, even when you’re telling us about the bad stuff. I look forward to reading your blog more than any other. Please don’t change just because some people think they have the right to judge you and critisize you. A blog is a very personal space in that it is up to the writer to present it how they want. If the reader doesn’t like what you’re writing then they don’t have to visit!
Stay true to yourself my dear. x
Alison, I really think you should keep Brocante home as it is. Obviously I wouldn’t mind more house keeping hints and tips as you are so good at those, but I also love the insights into your life, even the crazy bits. Especially the crazy bits actually! I also went through some relationship issues last year and I really felt I had a kindred spirit in you. Reading how you were and are coping really helped me along. Your writing is so funny, even when you’re telling us about the bad stuff. I look forward to reading your blog more than any other. Please don’t change just because some people think they have the right to judge you and critisize you. A blog is a very personal space in that it is up to the writer to present it how they want. If the reader doesn’t like what you’re writing then they don’t have to visit!
Stay true to yourself my dear. x
Alison, I really think you should keep Brocante home as it is. Obviously I wouldn't mind more house keeping hints and tips as you are so good at those, but I also love the insights into your life, even the crazy bits. Especially the crazy bits actually! I also went through some relationship issues last year and I really felt I had a kindred spirit in you. Reading how you were and are coping really helped me along. Your writing is so funny, even when you're telling us about the bad stuff. I look forward to reading your blog more than any other. Please don't change just because some people think they have the right to judge you and critisize you. A blog is a very personal space in that it is up to the writer to present it how they want. If the reader doesn't like what you're writing then they don't have to visit!
Stay true to yourself my dear. x
Hi Allison,
I really enjoy your blog. I love all recipes and house keeping advices, and I also enjoy your posts about your life. Just write what feels right to you. Thanks for inspiration!
Hi Allison,
I really enjoy your blog. I love all recipes and house keeping advices, and I also enjoy your posts about your life. Just write what feels right to you. Thanks for inspiration!
This is just an idea; if the bottom-line purpose of your blog is to generate income, do you even need the comments sections? I mean, rather than censoring yourself in what you write, just eliminate the comments because if you're not looking for advice or input anyway, they don't serve any practical purpose. Readers who are particularly moved by an entry could still email you, and any unwelcome input wouldn't be aired out in public. Most entries (except ones like the current one) don't get very many comments, anyway, so it wouldn't necessarily detract from the blog's appeal. Most people come here to enjoy reading and not to nitpick you or each other, so even without comments they'll keep coming back to read and keep the money coming in in the process. Again, just an idea; I don't blog, so maybe those who do might have better ideas to share about this.
This is just an idea; if the bottom-line purpose of your blog is to generate income, do you even need the comments sections? I mean, rather than censoring yourself in what you write, just eliminate the comments because if you're not looking for advice or input anyway, they don't serve any practical purpose. Readers who are particularly moved by an entry could still email you, and any unwelcome input wouldn't be aired out in public. Most entries (except ones like the current one) don't get very many comments, anyway, so it wouldn't necessarily detract from the blog's appeal. Most people come here to enjoy reading and not to nitpick you or each other, so even without comments they'll keep coming back to read and keep the money coming in in the process. Again, just an idea; I don't blog, so maybe those who do might have better ideas to share about this.
I've always enjoyed your Vintage Housekeeper guidance so well & will look forward to more hints & insight!
Of course, I also agree that this is your blog & that you should write as you wish. Personally, I enjoy both the personal & the "housekeeping" entries, so myself, I'd be happy with either!
As everyone else has said…it's your blog, do what you want. However, it was the original bent of BrocanteHome that attracted me, and I've found the change somewhat frustrating and disappointing. I've thought of deleting this blog from my "favorites" several times, but have hoped you'd get back on track once your personal life settled down. Again, though, it's yours. Do what you want. I can always just stop reading.
As everyone else has said…it's your blog, do what you want. However, it was the original bent of BrocanteHome that attracted me, and I've found the change somewhat frustrating and disappointing. I've thought of deleting this blog from my "favorites" several times, but have hoped you'd get back on track once your personal life settled down. Again, though, it's yours. Do what you want. I can always just stop reading.
The more I think about it : Write a book, any book you want. I'll read it and I'm sure many other of your blogging friends will read it too. You are an artist and a good writer. Go for it girl.
I am shy about posting comments online, but feel the need now. I happened upon your site the day you announced that Mark was leaving, and I've been an avid reader since.
You are a favorite part of my morning ritual. Besides my love of all things vintage, I have been where you have been. I know the stages you are going through, and from what I can tell, you are doing just fine. Your site is beautiful. I've gotten so many lovely housekeeping ideas here. And your willingness to share an honest, vulnerable little glimpse of you and your life is so refreshing. I adore your self-deprecating humor, and you truly make me feel like a friend. And as a friend, albeit an "online friend", I support you.
When I am in your site I feel like I am sitting with you in your warm home, chatting and enjoying a cup of tea. This is YOUR outlet for your skills, your joys and pains. A comfortable place where you should feel safe, where you can express your lovely ideas, vent your hurts, angers, frustrations and share your triumphs. Friends listen, offer encouraging advice, laugh with you at the wonderfully silly things. A friend doesn't pass judgement, isn't condescending or critical. You have a wonderful support system in your family and your personal friends — and so many "online friends" who just want you to be your glorious self.
I am shy about posting comments online, but feel the need now. I happened upon your site the day you announced that Mark was leaving, and I've been an avid reader since.
You are a favorite part of my morning ritual. Besides my love of all things vintage, I have been where you have been. I know the stages you are going through, and from what I can tell, you are doing just fine. Your site is beautiful. I've gotten so many lovely housekeeping ideas here. And your willingness to share an honest, vulnerable little glimpse of you and your life is so refreshing. I adore your self-deprecating humor, and you truly make me feel like a friend. And as a friend, albeit an "online friend", I support you.
When I am in your site I feel like I am sitting with you in your warm home, chatting and enjoying a cup of tea. This is YOUR outlet for your skills, your joys and pains. A comfortable place where you should feel safe, where you can express your lovely ideas, vent your hurts, angers, frustrations and share your triumphs. Friends listen, offer encouraging advice, laugh with you at the wonderfully silly things. A friend doesn't pass judgement, isn't condescending or critical. You have a wonderful support system in your family and your personal friends — and so many "online friends" who just want you to be your glorious self.
47 comments says it all … we loved your original format, but don't mistake it — we're never tired of hearing anything you have to say, don't ever censor yourself!! You're among friends!
Everything is cool. Do what you want to be comfortable…I think your true friends will be here.
Everything is cool. Do what you want to be comfortable…I think your true friends will be here.
…wow…look at all us peeps! I have enjoyed reading all "versions" of your wonderful blog and feel that the decision you have made is absolutely the right one at this time, good luck with everything always! x
Hi,
I love reading about you and your adorable little boy!! For me, that's the icing on your whole wonderful blog!! I'm sorry some people have to be such creeps, but I really hope you'll reconsider and keep everything just as it is. 🙂
Hi,
I love reading about you and your adorable little boy!! For me, that's the icing on your whole wonderful blog!! I'm sorry some people have to be such creeps, but I really hope you'll reconsider and keep everything just as it is. 🙂
Sometimes, people suck big time. I had online counseling before and that's why today, I don't bother giving details of my real life!!! But I like your blog, I don't know who you are in person, but the way you write is pretty fun. I like it. Do whatever you wish! Good luck!
Hi Alison
My thoughts are as Bea says ~ if the comments serve no practical purpose, and there are so many comments ~ mainly to controversial issues ~ why have it in the first place? There is always the chance that comments get nasty or gets somebody going, yes? I've emailed you before and I'm sure you'll get a lot of emails still. I know writers need feedback! Perhaps, dear one, this may be a solution to keeping the Brocante site as you initially wanted.
Cuddles,
Cherished
Hi Alison
My thoughts are as Bea says ~ if the comments serve no practical purpose, and there are so many comments ~ mainly to controversial issues ~ why have it in the first place? There is always the chance that comments get nasty or gets somebody going, yes? I've emailed you before and I'm sure you'll get a lot of emails still. I know writers need feedback! Perhaps, dear one, this may be a solution to keeping the Brocante site as you initially wanted.
Cuddles,
Cherished
You know the answer, Alison. You can do whatever you choose; you must do what your soul tells you or this will be just another clean your house, dust your doilies, and burn lavendar/vanilla all day websites… a beautiful little diversion, and one that is, yes, inspirational, but no… not worthy of your soul's investment. We keep readint your blog because we are your friends… possibly at first people read for curiousity, for inspiration, for sheer amazement at the scope of your comments and postings. Where else in the world can we find a mixture of home cleaning naturale with the pathos of a woman gone through emotional/relationship hell, the blending of someone who inspires us to decant our stupid dull dishwashing liquid (calling it fairy liquid or something such delightful) along with a honest view into the hearts, doubts, fears, and inner sanctum of a mum who loves her child with such ferocity that it hurts…??? We all have both of these women lurking, I believe, within our own souls. We respond to the postings you have given us because we ourselves have either been there for real, or been there in fantasy.
You said you revealed your innermost thoughts too much. Too much for what? What I notice is that you change so much… your innermost thoughts today aren't really those of yesteryear… and that resonates with me completely. Just as soon as I think I can define myself, explain how I'm feeling, and then do…. I change completely… The printed page shocks me, especially if someone else has read it… I see that in your writings. I don't really want you to do two separate blogs because that would disect the two to two thousand Alisons living inside you… Those many faces of yourself are just the friends we need because we have so many faces ourselves. I miss personal comments just to me from you, but I figure I must share you with your many readers, your family, and your new pursuits. I honestly would look up your blog if you simply chatted a moment about the weather because I honestly adore and love you with all my heart. I think I have announced at all times I am in your corner, and honey, I am… Even if you pick up your cosy cushion and move your corner from pillar to post, as my gramma always used to say… I will find your corner and read what you are doing, what your day planner wants us to do (although I admit I don't really have a Brocante bed or anything scrumptious in my Pamper me basket at the moment).
I was luckily indisposed and missed all the clatter with Jelly bean and Lazy H and all the rest… I might have slashed her, too… I might have said just the thing to diffuse it all??? haha… I just have confidence that whatever you do will be totally Brocante, totally you, and wonderfully soulful. My goodness, this is getting to be a long post. But I often just read now and don't post at all… This is something I've been thinking for a long time. When i refer to you to my friends, I always say, "MY friend in England" and that you are… a friend.. As a friend, you are completely free to be yourself and know that is completely accepted and adored. I could yell at you to never change, to change this instant, to stop blaming Mark, to muster up… but really, your north star lives inside your own heart and mind… You need no advice from us, and both of us know that…. I just want to end with an apology for missing your birthday!!!! haha… how strange a way to end this, huh? I am always and forever in your corner, and I so hope in your heart, as well.. Hugs from your long time friend in Missouri who loves you and little Finley, your Mum and Dad, dear Helen, and even Mark…. and Mr. Right if you find him… XXXXX G.
Hello Alison, I don't think I have left a comment on your blog before – I pop in from time to time, but I am not a regular reader – I think there is a lot of 'projection' in blogworld. Because someone might have qualities we admire, or talent we attach other things to them that we probably want ourselves.
A few months ago I got really fed up with trying to produce post after post of happy crafty chit chat which basically isn't me – I'm a miserable bitch a lot of the time and like nothing more than a good old moan, so that is now what I do – my viewing figures have plumated, but it really doesn't matter as I have nothing to sell,and it does feel better just letting it all hang out!
Hello Alison, I don't think I have left a comment on your blog before – I pop in from time to time, but I am not a regular reader – I think there is a lot of 'projection' in blogworld. Because someone might have qualities we admire, or talent we attach other things to them that we probably want ourselves.
A few months ago I got really fed up with trying to produce post after post of happy crafty chit chat which basically isn't me – I'm a miserable bitch a lot of the time and like nothing more than a good old moan, so that is now what I do – my viewing figures have plumated, but it really doesn't matter as I have nothing to sell,and it does feel better just letting it all hang out!
ahh poop on them! write whatever ya want! If readers don't like it too flippen bad! Forget about that turd jellybean. This is someones journal journal jellybean, ya nimwad! Obviously jellybean is suffering very low self esteem…you know you could always delete those types of comments? who needs um? just had to comment.
I really enjoy your blog. I think you have a funny view of life and sometimes find myself laughing out loud at your blog 😉 I say, its your blog, write what you want. If people don't like it, they can quit reading 😉 Love your housekeeping tips! Rosemary
I really enjoy your blog. I think you have a funny view of life and sometimes find myself laughing out loud at your blog 😉 I say, its your blog, write what you want. If people don't like it, they can quit reading 😉 Love your housekeeping tips! Rosemary
You mean you're going to take the Allison out of Brocante?? But Brocante IS Allison!! I don't think you reveal "too much", especially in an age when people give too much information all the time (to put it bluntly, they let it all hang out, and it's usually gross stuff).
No, I think your writing is just right.
I love your blog too! Don't change a thing! However, whatever direction you decide to take, I'll look forward to reading future posts (easy to please eh?)
Take care,
Kelleigh
I love your blog too! Don't change a thing! However, whatever direction you decide to take, I'll look forward to reading future posts (easy to please eh?)
Take care,
Kelleigh
A while back you wrote a post about bills…avoiding them…pushing them under the table runner to see if they might go away…letting them stack up and then finally paying them and how good you felt when you finally did. That post made me feel like I wasn't the only person in the world who lets bills stack up. (stack up in a pretty wicker basket…but nonetheless!) My point is, you are an interesting woman who, just like the rest of us interesting women have faults, dreams, desires and shortcomings…you just remind us that we're not alone!
Alison your blog is wonderful. I have enjoyed your journey with the ups and the downs, have laughed, cried, cheered and applauded many of your posts. This is YOUR space to do and say whatever you want to. Don't let one misguided and, quite frankly, waaaaaaay too serious person make you change it. Only change if you want to honey. I'm sure I will enjoy it however you write it 🙂
Alison your blog is wonderful. I have enjoyed your journey with the ups and the downs, have laughed, cried, cheered and applauded many of your posts. This is YOUR space to do and say whatever you want to. Don't let one misguided and, quite frankly, waaaaaaay too serious person make you change it. Only change if you want to honey. I'm sure I will enjoy it however you write it 🙂
Wow. I missed your blog for a few days, and stumble upon THIS! My goodness, Alison… this is YOUR blog! You wouldn't have written what you have, and received the largely wonderful comments you have, if it weren't for you obviously being yourself. If you're anything like I am (a stay at home mom whose only friends now are the parents of her children's friends!), those you blog with become cyber-friends! Friends are the ones who cheer you on and return to your blog to do so.
You do women a great service by just being you. Being a housewife can make one feel invisible at times, but your weblog makes us all feel a bit more significant.
You do women a great service by just being you. Being a housewife can make one feel invisible at times, but your weblog makes us all feel a bit more significant.
Alison, i love your blog,what you have created brings delight,cheer and honesty to all who visit. your the best friend we all need.thank you for being you.
Alison,
I love your blog. You live in another world to me. I live in the United States. Most of the comments to your blogs, I ignore. Whatever you write, I will probably enjoy. If I don't enjoy it, one day, who cares. You are sort of writing a diary, life doesn't hand you roses every single day!!!! I love many people in my life, I don't let them have it every time their behavior puzzles me. I appreciate a person who is vulnerable from time to time. Stuffy, perfect people disturb me. Happy, "Oh! everything is fine, and perfect and wonderful people" are ok, if I believe it REALY is true. But, I don't like FAKES. You are not playing games. I prefer a person being vulnerable, than playing games of "Oh…..I am so pure, good, perfect, strong…blah, blah..
I am not a very good writer. But, I hope what I am writing is letting you know, that I am one more person that likes your blog.
I appreciated your honesty about the details of your life. I don't like it when people tell you that you love your "messy" life. I like you very much. I like that you are human. I hope you do well.
Alison,
I love your blog. You live in another world to me. I live in the United States. Most of the comments to your blogs, I ignore. Whatever you write, I will probably enjoy. If I don't enjoy it, one day, who cares. You are sort of writing a diary, life doesn't hand you roses every single day!!!! I love many people in my life, I don't let them have it every time their behavior puzzles me. I appreciate a person who is vulnerable from time to time. Stuffy, perfect people disturb me. Happy, "Oh! everything is fine, and perfect and wonderful people" are ok, if I believe it REALY is true. But, I don't like FAKES. You are not playing games. I prefer a person being vulnerable, than playing games of "Oh…..I am so pure, good, perfect, strong…blah, blah..
I am not a very good writer. But, I hope what I am writing is letting you know, that I am one more person that likes your blog.
I appreciated your honesty about the details of your life. I don't like it when people tell you that you love your "messy" life. I like you very much. I like that you are human. I hope you do well.
I discovered your site a couple of days ago and have been skimming through it and really enjoying it. I have certainly enjoyed seeing how it evolved. Your writings about your personal growth create a sense of being personally connected to your readers on an emotional level. As I read about your ups and downs after your husband left, I was reminded of some of the rough times in my own life. I very much enjoyed reading about how you went from the shock and pain of the first few days to the point you seem to have reached now–4 steps forward and 1/2 step back. And, you know, you are helping other women in similar circumstances realize that there is a rose garden waiting at the end of the path through the frightening forest. Please consider continuing to write as you have been doing. Please do not allow anyone's comments to stifle the outpouring that is so natural to you.
Hi Allison! I found your blog when it was about vintage housekeeping. The Manifesto was an actual manifesto. This is the Brocante Home I loved. I will be so pleased to have your wonderfully vintage advice and tips to keeping a house the old fashion way. I loved the tip on how you refluff your bath towels in the dryer when you clean your bathroom!
Hi Allison! I found your blog when it was about vintage housekeeping. The Manifesto was an actual manifesto. This is the Brocante Home I loved. I will be so pleased to have your wonderfully vintage advice and tips to keeping a house the old fashion way. I loved the tip on how you refluff your bath towels in the dryer when you clean your bathroom!