Life is ludicrously noisy. If it isn’t the television blurring, it is the kids nattering, the phone ringing or the neighbours lawnmower chugging. We are surrounded by noise. Non-stop relentless clatter infiltrating our minds and leaving us without a peaceful place to retreat to. Is it any wonder we all feel a little bonkers from time to time?
And so because wearing earplugs twenty four seven is deeply unsociable, we must, for our own sanity, create for ourselves a silent sanctuary: a place where we can slope off to to sit down for a while to re-group, gather our spirits and enjoy the creative spark our Muse will only light when we offer her the kind of hush she needs to think out loud.
While this is essentially about establishing a physical space in which to become still, we must also learn how to employ techniques that offer us sanctuary in our own heads. While not all of us are capable of
Begin by seeking out a place where you will be far away from the rest of the house if not in distance then at least in spirit. Choose a chair in the garden, a cushion on your bedroom floor, a sofa in the conservatory: in fact anywhere where you will feel comfortable enough to sit for up to twenty minutes without developing the kind of twitchy legs that will have you bouncing back into the maelstrom or worse, falling into to a mid-afternoon slump!
Sit for a while there. See how it feels. Do you need another cushion in the small of your back? Is there a
Are you comfortable? Good. Now lets think about when you will come to your special place. When we are establishing a quiet practise like this, it will become habit if we ritually attend this appointment with our quiet selves at roughly the same time daily. It matters less when we go, than it does to go again at a similar time the day after and the day after that and on and on. We need to make quiet time precious to ourselves so that those who live with us will come to respect it too.
So we have a time and a place and now we need to settle in: to decorate our little quiet space with all that we need to bring about hush. If it isn’t possible to have your quiet place permanently set up for serenity then it might be as well to create a quiet time basket you can bring with you.
In my own quiet time practise I sit upon a large peach cushion I used to hold my baby on when I was breastfeeding. I light a tiny
Though I practise Transcendental
While it may at first seem forced, taking a moment to enhance your quiet time with a few objects with meaning will make the ritual a more inviting one. These items do not have to be the clichéd kit of the ageing hippie either, but can absolutely reflect your own vintage aesthetic as mine do, with the emphasis being on the pretty: the soft pink of the rose crystal that almost seems to hum in my hand, the pretty
The ritualisation of your own quiet time can therefore be as simple or as elaborate as you like. Should you be lucky enough to have a spare room then let it do double duty as your very own serene space and be as selfish as you need to be in indulging this space with all that you need to find peace and quiet. Add photographs, create an altar, light as many candles as you want, have a
This is your place. Make it beautiful and throbbing with emotion. Keep it deliciously simple or as decorative as your heart requires for our own sense of serenity is enhanced when the eye finds beauty and order according to our own personal aesthetic and a mind soothed by an eye pleased is one that will settle long enough to engage all the senses and enjoy the kind of silence only deep peace can bring.
This then is your task for this week: to create a quiet place all of your own and in amongst the laundry and the cooking and the childcare and the loving, to find time to simply sit and stare at the flicker of a
Peace my Darling is your absolute right.