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  1. I really enjoyed reading this post. Thank you for being so vulnerable with us. Your feelings resonate with me often. I wish you the very best and send my love across the pond.x

  2. Oh, my love! I think you’re having a bit of the “OMG I’m almost FIFTY!!!” crazies. It’s okay. All will soon be well again, just differently. (((((((((HUGS))))))))) to you. The emerging woman will be every bit as interesting & lovely as the one giving birth to here (a.k.a. the old” you). ??? ???

  3. Having known you over 20 years, I have accumulated so many images, phrases, dreams, and inspirations through your gifts of sharing your authentic self. It is always scary to admit that something and sometimes someone we loved is not serving us well any more. I now know a good deal of who I was really grew out of who I wanted to be for having the best life with my Mom. Not only are those things not as fun without her and kinda sad, I was shocked to discover I didn’t even like them… So no fresh plants grow in my yard. I never make Angel food cake or wedding cake cookies… I don’t like the same movies or decorate with deep sage green… What really gets me through is that same idea that struck me when I mourned my gramma… They, both Mom and my grandmothers, also lost their mothers… and they staggered and rocked the boat but then managed for years to somehow buck up and create beautiful homes, arts, foods, holidays, and memories for the rest of us. All this to say… if you decide for any reason you want to change, update, revamp, or overturn any of your previous methods, just be yourself and follow your own north star. As long as you share with us , we shall be continually in awe of your dreams and ideas about living your best life.

  4. Sounds like you are feeling better–and this is such a powerful place to be, where you can literally do or say anything : ) I am about ten years older than you and (bad news) when I still feel like this from time to time, I have found doing something I have told myself I am afraid to do (like wear the unflattering dress, paint the room the color I like without running it by anyone else, take the run even if the grading doesn’t get done) and finding out the world doesn’t end to be very helpful. There are so many things I tell myself I can’t do that really don’t matter at all–(and I’ll be so much happier if I don’t spend the time agonizing about my appearance, giving someone the opportunity to convince me neutral would be a better option for paint, or telling myself work has to come before the exercise that might prolong my life)–somewhere we all get these notions of what should come first, what we should do, what should be the responsible thing, that we give away the freedom we do have. For me, this kind of feeling is rooted in the realization I don’t feel free anymore.

  5. Alison, you’ve spoken some things from my own creative heart. Erase what you need to, in order to go on to the next season of your journey. And, without even knowing it, you’ve inspired me to do the same.
    Hugs from Texas!

  6. Though I am ten years older than you I have been going through some very similar feelings lately. Almost all of them in fact. Who am I? Who is this woman now? So much is different from what I’d imagined it would be and so different from where I want it to be and I have to agree with you that getting off Facebook is one step I’m taking that has significantly reduced the noise in my life. I also gave up the community group feeds because, well frankly, they are just a bunch of fighting, and who needs it. I took the Facebook app right off my phone because I was wasting HOURS there, and quite frankly I’m missing nothing. I check it occasionally on my computer from work but honestly, there is little to nothing I am missing in the way of meaningful communication with anyone I want to communicate with. I’m still stuck on the newsfeed but, like you, I’m feeling weighed down by the negativity and fear churned up by the USA’s own version of Brexit madness (Trump as President, how TH did that happen??!!), and the constant feed of negativity, fear, and anger that fills the pages from all over the world. As you say, it fills us with so much fear that it becomes difficult to hear our own voices, focus on our own lives, or dream of or take care of the many small details of our own lives that we would be better off focusing on. I was inspired by your earlier books to bring my focus back to my home and my close family, and to try to create a life I enjoy inhabiting. I’m inspired by you now, to admit that the life that was working for so long, is no longer working for me, and it’s time to take some downtime and reassess. I didn’t know that you’d left your little cottage though, or that you were now in a long term relationship that was now so difficult, I must have missed something along the way (I only recently began following you on FB) but our lives constantly fluctuate, change, and morph and all we can do is reassess, make some choices, try them out, and move on. Good luck to you. Good luck to me. I’m still subscribed to your blog so whenever you do decide to put something there I’ll be sure to stop in and hope that you are finding your way back to yourself as I hope to do. And yes, I’ve thought of shaving my head or stuffing my life into an RV, (but not a tartan suitcase) and running away too. Unfortunately that one phrase keeps following me, “Wherever you go, there you are.” But maybe a nice break from routine? Somehow?

  7. In many ways I am sorry I had to drop off some of your teachings earlier this year due mainly to financial constraints, but I have to say I found the Facebook part too much as well. I think it wise to not give FB so much time and effort as it is a draining force. I have purged my personal account to 5 close friends and that is it – no more the endless prattle will I put up with as it becomes all encompassing and sure is not healthy in any way. For my other pages I have made them completely private for me to look at when I want to but not to share and try and get likes. I really do not care what others think of things I find meaningful so do not need to share. Alison on a more personal note I wanted to say that grief turns us into rudderless ships, and we flounder and get lost at sea for what seems like eons, until that lighthouse appears and we slowly start to find our way to safety. This happened to me after my mother died and then my father a couple of years later, we were so very close, and I was lost. Being an orphan so to speak did not suit me at all, and boy did I flounder, I floundered because they were gone, I floundered because I was and am living in a country I do not understand and even today I occasionally have a floundering moment. In the end I decided to get back to the person I really was, no more trying to fit in, no more trying to show I had it all together, but instead show I had weaknesses and today I am stronger, though not whole. With all that has happened in your own life, I am sure that floundering is a huge part of where you have been in the last year or so, but it seems you too may have seen the glow of your lighthouse and I am so happy for you. I hope your new ventures will be successful, put yourself first and do not sell yourself short, and one day I hope I can rejoin whatever amazing thing you have created. Love and hugs from one who really does understand.

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