Lordy Ladies, you don’t wanna cross me today. I’m in a right little strop.
My lovely friend Emma is getting married in a month’s time, and being the oh so elegant, oh so refined woman that she is, she is not insisting on donning a tiara and tra-lalling around town with a string of drunken hens behind her, but is rather having an intimate little soiree at the local tapas bar, with three of our friends.
All well and scrumptious if I could go.
Instead I find myself navigating the unchartered waters that is negotiating with Mark about exactly what it is that constitutes sharing the responsibility of our babba.
I say that if the world and it’s wife is out socialising tonight and thus I cannot find anyone to babysit, then perhaps it would be oh so generous of him to step in and do his Fatherly duty?
He says that he would be babysitting the house, not his son, and why on earth would he do that?? What am I mad? Or wierd? Or daft? And anyway she who has no name ain’t entirely comfortable with the idea…
Hmmmm. We’ve reached a stalemate. She’s called Nicky.
So it looks like its smoked haddock and a glass of vino in front of the Tv for me tonight…
Hey ho.
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What?! Mark won't come and attend to his own son for an evening because the home wrecker is "uncomfortable"?! I would find a way to MAKE that wench "uncomfortable"! I swear that male is thinking with his gonads, not his heart or brain, and you should let him have what for! Some men can be such pigs and it makes my blood boil….for all of the memories and emotions it brings to surface. My daughter's dad pulled some stunts such as this and the more I allowed him to get by with it, the more he did it. I truly have no advice except to try to reason with him and accept whatever the outcome is since you really cannot change it. He's a pig and if you have to tell him so repeatedly, then so be it. He and the wench deserve each other and the personal hell they have created with each other. She needs to remember that if he will cheat WITH her, he will cheat ON her. Smile as you remind her of that…..{{HUGS}} from here and stay strong. You deserve so much better!
Well I'd remember that when he wants Finn! What an absolute pig (that's not actually what I want to write – but it's slightly more polite – let's just say the word I'm calling him as the first letter in common and it also as a r, i, c,k!!)
You should arrange another night out with your pal, have a nice night anyway
If we were all closer, you would have a gaggle of babysitters vying for the chance to be with dear little Finn for an evening. Never mind HIM….just remember there are more ways to kill a cat than strangling it !!!! Hugssssss
It's a horrible shame when a man is more interested in his….uh–certain part of his anatomy…than his son. He ought to be ashamed of himself! Is he tring to abrogate all paternal responsibility. I hope (very much hope) that you got some legal advice on how to deal with this. What's going to happen later if Finley needs something major? Is Mark going to be there or supportive? I wonder.
It's a horrible shame when a man is more interested in his….uh–certain part of his anatomy…than his son. He ought to be ashamed of himself! Is he tring to abrogate all paternal responsibility. I hope (very much hope) that you got some legal advice on how to deal with this. What's going to happen later if Finley needs something major? Is Mark going to be there or supportive? I wonder.
His name isn't Mark, it's Rick with a silent "P."
His name isn't Mark, it's Rick with a silent "P."
What an absolute *******!!!! I'm really sorry you're missing out on the evening with your friends. He is a total idiot and you are well rid of him. I really hope you manage to sort out this situation with him and that he realises his responsibilities. I know it must be so hard for you but you should know that there are lots of us out there, who even though we've never met you, care about what is happening to you and feel angry on your behalf and would help you with the babysitting if we lived nearby. I hope you manage to have a good evening anyway. Whatever you do, don't let him get to you. He's not worth it! x
Oh dear. Don't think he realises that when his son is of interest to him (old enough to go watch Rochdale FC with him) that Finn will either:
A) Ask who that odd little man with Waynetta Pollard at the front door is.
B) will be away snowboarding in Val D'asere with his step-dad.
C) say "No ta, I'd rather chill out with the only parent I know, love and respect."
Remember the KARMA mantra. That little man broke your heart and your little man will break his. Patience. Divine retrubution comes to those who deserve.
Oh dear. Don't think he realises that when his son is of interest to him (old enough to go watch Rochdale FC with him) that Finn will either:
A) Ask who that odd little man with Waynetta Pollard at the front door is.
B) will be away snowboarding in Val D'asere with his step-dad.
C) say "No ta, I'd rather chill out with the only parent I know, love and respect."
Remember the KARMA mantra. That little man broke your heart and your little man will break his. Patience. Divine retrubution comes to those who deserve.
Oh gosh Alison, he does make me fume! Not as much as he does you I am sure, but really!
Oh how I wish we lived nearer- I should love to look after Finn for you while you go see the girls!
That smoked haddock sound rather delicious though- it's potato and feta frittata for me tonight.
Oh gosh Alison, he does make me fume! Not as much as he does you I am sure, but really!
Oh how I wish we lived nearer- I should love to look after Finn for you while you go see the girls!
That smoked haddock sound rather delicious though- it's potato and feta frittata for me tonight.
Hi there,
I discovered your site some time back and have lurked occasionally, but I am coming out of the closet today! I am so sorry to hear of the upset in your life. I have a daughter 2 1/2 years old and a work-at-home husband who (not so) occasionally drives me batty, all in a very small townhome here in California that I am trying to make into a haven for us all. I too enjoy all things vintage and natural and just had to write to tell you several things:
1. Mark has no idea what he has lost in you. You are an amazing mother, a true kindred spirit, and hysterically funny to boot.
2. I have now laughed and cried at your blog and am even figuring out some of the british expressions you use and how funny they are!
3. I am constantly amazed by your undeniable talent for writing. You have a way with words that is legendary. I envision you one day publishing a book all about BrocanteHome and being fabulously wealthy and happy but still buying teacups and linens from the boot sales in the rain!
4. Your home, the few pictures I've seen of it (HINT HINT!) is the loveliest thing I have ever laid eyes on. How I wish I could invite myself over for a cup of tea on your lovely patio!
You have such style and wit and I am very inspired by you and your site. I am going to finally organize a closet or two that have been quietly taunting me and I will do them up with darling baskets, old linens, lavender sachets and the works. I even came to your site today for inspiration when I found myself restless and having a wanderlust that I had neither the time, money, nor energy to quell, and instead finding wonderful projects I could lose myself in right here at home, which will ultimately create a lovelier home and a happier me!
It is so wonderful to meet someone who has similar values and doesn't think doilies are just for old women! (Not to mention someone who shares my passion for cheese and cake and all things fattening and fabulous!) Thank you for all that you contribute to this site. It is truly magical!
Best wishes,
Kari
Hi there,
I discovered your site some time back and have lurked occasionally, but I am coming out of the closet today! I am so sorry to hear of the upset in your life. I have a daughter 2 1/2 years old and a work-at-home husband who (not so) occasionally drives me batty, all in a very small townhome here in California that I am trying to make into a haven for us all. I too enjoy all things vintage and natural and just had to write to tell you several things:
1. Mark has no idea what he has lost in you. You are an amazing mother, a true kindred spirit, and hysterically funny to boot.
2. I have now laughed and cried at your blog and am even figuring out some of the british expressions you use and how funny they are!
3. I am constantly amazed by your undeniable talent for writing. You have a way with words that is legendary. I envision you one day publishing a book all about BrocanteHome and being fabulously wealthy and happy but still buying teacups and linens from the boot sales in the rain!
4. Your home, the few pictures I've seen of it (HINT HINT!) is the loveliest thing I have ever laid eyes on. How I wish I could invite myself over for a cup of tea on your lovely patio!
You have such style and wit and I am very inspired by you and your site. I am going to finally organize a closet or two that have been quietly taunting me and I will do them up with darling baskets, old linens, lavender sachets and the works. I even came to your site today for inspiration when I found myself restless and having a wanderlust that I had neither the time, money, nor energy to quell, and instead finding wonderful projects I could lose myself in right here at home, which will ultimately create a lovelier home and a happier me!
It is so wonderful to meet someone who has similar values and doesn't think doilies are just for old women! (Not to mention someone who shares my passion for cheese and cake and all things fattening and fabulous!) Thank you for all that you contribute to this site. It is truly magical!
Best wishes,
Kari
How dare he! He would only be babysitting the house! This situation has to improve and what will 'she who has no name' do when he has to actually spend time with his son. I shudder to think. I personally think it boils down to jealousy and she does not want him coming over in case he wants to come back. Just shows she is very insecure. Does he just think that now he has gone he has given up all parental responsibility? Don't get me started and I don't want to get you worked up either, I just felt sorry that you could not enjoy one night out with your good friend who is getting married. Don't worry, hopefully soon Robbie Williams will come knocking at your door to see your potatoes!
How dare he! He would only be babysitting the house! This situation has to improve and what will 'she who has no name' do when he has to actually spend time with his son. I shudder to think. I personally think it boils down to jealousy and she does not want him coming over in case he wants to come back. Just shows she is very insecure. Does he just think that now he has gone he has given up all parental responsibility? Don't get me started and I don't want to get you worked up either, I just felt sorry that you could not enjoy one night out with your good friend who is getting married. Don't worry, hopefully soon Robbie Williams will come knocking at your door to see your potatoes!
What??!! He won't even babysit his own son? What is the matter with that guy??!!
What??!! He won't even babysit his own son? What is the matter with that guy??!!
I don't remember ever being able to parent my children at my convenience…….
I don't remember ever being able to parent my children at my convenience…….
What kind of a person is he! his own son! Oh Honey, you are so well shot of him, I am hoping last minute he looked after Fin for you x
What kind of a person is he! his own son! Oh Honey, you are so well shot of him, I am hoping last minute he looked after Fin for you x
not one to post much over here, but I just had to pipe in here, the fact that he would even refer to it as 'babysitting' really gets me PISST! what a flamin' jerk-off he is!
not one to post much over here, but I just had to pipe in here, the fact that he would even refer to it as 'babysitting' really gets me PISST! what a flamin' jerk-off he is!
Just make sure you get child support – this is number one ! Then try and over look this lesser individual s failings – one thing is for sure – this wont last with this Nicky –
When questioned about their overiding emotion a year after divorce, 85% of women said "relief" and that is not counting the 10% that said euphoria" Try and overlook the crap – it is not worth you emotional time or effort.
Just make sure you get child support – this is number one ! Then try and over look this lesser individual s failings – one thing is for sure – this wont last with this Nicky –
When questioned about their overiding emotion a year after divorce, 85% of women said "relief" and that is not counting the 10% that said euphoria" Try and overlook the crap – it is not worth you emotional time or effort.
Nicky. Yuck! Goodnenss, what is that man thinking. He's choosing an insecure woman over his son. The heck with him! I wonder if Finn would be better off not even hanging with his dad. Mark doesn't even seem like he cares. I'm so sorry Alison, honestly. That is just too bad. Has anyone told Mark how insane he is? What do his parents think? Take care, Love, Susana
Nicky. Yuck! Goodnenss, what is that man thinking. He's choosing an insecure woman over his son. The heck with him! I wonder if Finn would be better off not even hanging with his dad. Mark doesn't even seem like he cares. I'm so sorry Alison, honestly. That is just too bad. Has anyone told Mark how insane he is? What do his parents think? Take care, Love, Susana
I simply don't understand. How can he be so stupid and awful? He would be babysitting the "house", not his son? I don't get it at all. And Nicky is "uncomfortable" with him looking after his SON?! He has his priorities all messed up (but you know that anyway).
I simply don't understand. How can he be so stupid and awful? He would be babysitting the "house", not his son? I don't get it at all. And Nicky is "uncomfortable" with him looking after his SON?! He has his priorities all messed up (but you know that anyway).