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  1. And I can attest that this feeling waxes and wanes with the years, and is ever so delicious every time. A positively delicious aching and yearning for a wonderful life, and every time, I do believe I make more effort to improve my lot, and that of my companions in this travel. And, we are all the better for it, as you will be too! Love!

  2. You do have a way with words!
    This to shall pass. Give it some time. Re-arrange the furniture to see things in a new light, it always helps me. Stirring the same pot can get mighty boring. Throw something new in to the mix. A class or lecture on something you are interested in. A field trip to a store, shop, musem you’ve nevere been to. Dress up for yourself, not anyone else. The list can go on….
    Being content is hard. It doesn’t come naturally. We fight against it, but shouldn’t as it is a single mum’s biggest ally. Heres a pint to you, from Texas.

  3. Oh no…not peculiar to you at all! This is a God-given craving, I believe. Without it, how would we create beautiful things we’ve never seen, have any hope of improving the world or ever have a child? It is that desire for MORE, for better, for the light at the end of the tunnel and for the green grass on the neighbor’s side of the fence that fuels dreams, feeds artists’ imaginations, inspires us to do what hasn’t been done before AND MAKES US HUMAN. But like all really important values/truths, it has its evil counterpart: that same desire for MORE than what’s in today can also lead to not savoring what IS IN today. You said that so well. So what are we to do? Just what you’re doing, I think! Wrestle with it. And it is as we wrestle and IN THAT TENSION, and so many more similar tensions, that we LIVE, especially as women. We are defined by how well we walk the many tightropes that are Truths. As you mentioned, a biggie is the Tightrope of Taking Care of Mommy and Taking Care of Baby. To lose my balance in one direction means losing ME (and where will Baby be then???) and to lose it to the other direction means neglecting Baby’s needs in favor of my own. So we live on the tightrope….teetering, swaying, bending, righting ourselves. I think this is another of those Tightropes. The really wonderful thing about you is that you are opening up a discourse about it. EVERY mama is walking these tightropes and if she thinks she’s not, she’s either lying or has fallen to one side or the other (oh peril!). So let’s keep wrestling ’til we’re dead! Because THAT’s living.

  4. Bye ‘eck Lass, you’ve made me weep, laugh and then jump for joy! I stumbled upon your website 2 weeks ago and read your posts like treasuring a chocolate bar – you are totally evocative and delicious! A real treat for a northern lass residing in the Caribbean for many many a year and ohhhhh you are such a reminder of home but more powerfully what a mind reader of women where ever we may be through out the world. Thank you for your musings and thoughts – you are a comfort, a treasure, truly a very special and loving woman and mum.
    Total nail on the head girl tonight – thank you!!!

  5. Beautifully written, Madame Brocante!
    It seems, in a recent study on which countries have the happiest populations, No. 1 was Denmark. How did they explain that? Danes don’t talk about happiness as such, but about contentment. And why are they content? They don’t expect too much. As long as they have what the *need*, they’re fine. As for how they’ve escaped that “I want and I want more” syndrome, I have no idea. When asked what was wrong with America (which came in at No. 27), for example, one Dane said: The America Dream (i.e. wealth). Why? Because the more they have, the more they want.

  6. Again you have touched a raw nerve within me! and yes it is absolutely possible to have what we wish for, believe me, but then the old but true cliche comes into play’be careful what you wish for’ often followed by’the grass is not that green on the other side of the street’I too love what is written here, and I believe if we are all totally honest, there is a Madam Bovary residing in each of us.

  7. I don’t think I can add any more to what has already been said. You always manage to write about what is so relevant to us all. And so beautifully too. Alison, please write a book!!!

  8. It’s always a joy visiting your site. You write so well and often thought provokingly. Not surprisingly perhaps, you also have some very sharp readers. I particularly like Cheryl’s comments and couldn’t agree more. I think it’s human nature to want and to strive for more but as I get older I’m starting to realise that the secret to happiness is definitely entwined with simply appreciating and being thankful for what you have today. It’s trite, I know, but true.

  9. Oh how true are all these things you’ve voiced – the desire for more always at war with the gratitude for now.
    And yes, I shall say it once again and echo these other commenters – please write a book!

  10. You sure can read my thoughts, Ali! I am new here and so enjoying the rich reading to be found…you write so well. It’s refreshing.
    Love & Blessings

  11. Your ability to take every woman's thought and delicately place it with words is a Godsend! Especially for those of us not as talented. You have a special gift for explanation and soul searching and of course, expression and writing. Hopefully, this desire for 'more' is never trampled and encourages you to go public with your thoughts and writing. You are most talented!

  12. I read this: “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.” But I’m far from achieving it =) Blessings… Polly

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