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  1. I can't even type what I want to say. it would look like this #*^!#@ – or similar. life is crap!!!!! oh Alison – just know that I am an email away – any old time. I have been there and it sucks. love ya !! xoxo

  2. I wish I lived nearby to give you a big hug and take you out somewhere for tea and shopping and something to get your mind off things, as if that is possible. Prayers for you and Finley. I'll keep checking in on you.

  3. I, too, am so sorry to hear about Mark's choice. But it seems to me you are a very strong woman with a loving family and you will get through this with your head held high and your beautiful baby smiling in your arms. Please know that you are in my thoughts.
    Also… a bit of advice… plan a little trip somewhere sunny for yourself. It will give you something to focus on and look forward to. It will help clear your head and put things in perspective. My mother advised me to do this when I had a heavy heart. It was the best advice she ever gave me.

  4. Alison, I am so sorry to hear about this & know that it must be difficult beyond words. I can see from your post that you are strong & brave and that you will get through. We are all here for you, hands to hold & shoulders to cry or laugh on 🙂

  5. Alison, you've been going through a really tough time, huh? I really do hope that Mark will get his head cleared up soon, and that he will be back in the loving arms of his family. That is where he belongs. This world is hard enough to understand as adults, and I can imagine it would only be more confusing for little Finley. I really hope Mark thinks about that. I hope love will triumph over everything else, move his heart to do the right thing. How many times have we as women not wanted to take a break? Dropping the things that are not important is ok, but just getting up and leaving our family? I pray you can both work things out together. You know eachother, and please don't feel pressured to do this or that, because other people tell you to or expect you to do that. No one is perfect Alison, so don't ever feel that your friends, family, etc.. see you as a fraud or a failure. We all have our bad moments, and you seem to be one of the most real women out there. We all have dreams, but you dare to share yours with the world. No one expects you to be perfect. God bless you Ali. I hope tomorrow will be a more Sunny Day for you. Lot's of Love, Susana

  6. Alison, my heart is so sad for you Finley and you. I am sorry you two are going through this. I will be praying for you. For strength and peace. Clarice

  7. I so looked forward to your return and am sorry to read of your pain. This happened to me 6 years ago, he came back and we are still together. Just be prepared for a different dynamic to the relationship. Focus on yourself and I hope you will not be forever wary as I have become. I fought hard for him to want me…..but it is different now. Claudette

  8. Alison, just know I am thinking about you and Finley! You helped me and my family through a rough patch a few months ago! I could never thank-you enough. I am thinking good thoughts and praying for you.
    Joanna

  9. My heart aches for you and your little boy. You bring so much cheer into people's lives with your site, I know that it will all wash back to you. It has too. my best wishes.

  10. WE love you, Sweet Alison.
    Your friends are here for you and you just need to heal and be better. It WILL be better, I promise, in due time. I will not give advice since I found most advice given to me when my husband of 18 years left me and our daughter was hurtful and destructive at best. You must follow your own heart, your own will, and only then will you be secure in your decisions. Finley will be okay as well cause he has YOU…his rock, his strength, his security, his world. He couldn't order a better Mum. Prayers, good thoughts, loads of love, and virtual hugs are yours.
    {{{Ali~Hug}}}

  11. Remember that you have an abundance of people who care, even though most of us have never met.Thinking of you and wishing only the best.

  12. Remember that you have an abundance of people who care, even though most of us have never met.Thinking of you and wishing only the best.

  13. All of you are in my thoughts and prayers. You are incredibly strong to have this view, and are a wonderful mum to Finley. He is lucky to have a mother with such a strong spirit! We will all be here to support you…

  14. All of you are in my thoughts and prayers. You are incredibly strong to have this view, and are a wonderful mum to Finley. He is lucky to have a mother with such a strong spirit! We will all be here to support you…

  15. Alison I have not known you very long,yet I know for sure you have a good soul,hang on to that and believe in yourself,and in the words of Germaine Greer remember that"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" May much,much happier days be ahead for you xx

  16. Oh, Allison, as much as I missed seeing you around here, I'm so sorry to hear of this. I hope you find the strength and peace you deserve, whatever the outcome is.

  17. Oh, Allison, as much as I missed seeing you around here, I'm so sorry to hear of this. I hope you find the strength and peace you deserve, whatever the outcome is.

  18. I am horrified for you all. Your story is my story–my heart is breaking all over again to learn that you're going through this. I survived so here is my hand in friendship and support–strengthened by experience and my own self will to survive and live well.

  19. I am so, so sorry… You poor, poor darling…
    I send you a massive hug
    With fondest love,
    Sara x

  20. I am so, so sorry… You poor, poor darling…
    I send you a massive hug
    With fondest love,
    Sara x

  21. Alison. You live as authentically as you possible can — you practice gratitude and loving kindness and create a beautiful, intelligent and safe home for your family — and even though these tools for living your life did not protect you from this, I believe that they will give you the strength to deal with this. I am sending good thoughts to you, Mark and Finley.

  22. Allison,
    May your heart heal and you find inner strenght. I lived/am living through a similar situation…only i wasn't married to the man, he was my father. It's hard to comprehend how someone can up and leave everything they seemed to love so much. You will come out of this no matter what the outcome is, a stronger, wiser and more beautiful woman inside and out….i've seen my own mother do it. My heart and thoughts go out to all of you.

  23. Allison,
    May your heart heal and you find inner strenght. I lived/am living through a similar situation…only i wasn't married to the man, he was my father. It's hard to comprehend how someone can up and leave everything they seemed to love so much. You will come out of this no matter what the outcome is, a stronger, wiser and more beautiful woman inside and out….i've seen my own mother do it. My heart and thoughts go out to all of you.

  24. Alison – Although I have never met you, my heart aches for what you are going through. I am so sorry to read about this. The positive thing is that you and Mark can still speak to each other without wanting to kill each other. I would like to think that is a positive step toward repairing your relationship. I will keep you, Finley, and Mark in my prayers.
    Love,
    Suzi

  25. Alison – Although I have never met you, my heart aches for what you are going through. I am so sorry to read about this. The positive thing is that you and Mark can still speak to each other without wanting to kill each other. I would like to think that is a positive step toward repairing your relationship. I will keep you, Finley, and Mark in my prayers.
    Love,
    Suzi

  26. So very sorry, Alison. Just please know that for what it is worth, all of us have (and will keep) you (and Finley) in our thoughts and prayers!!!

  27. So very sorry, Alison. Just please know that for what it is worth, all of us have (and will keep) you (and Finley) in our thoughts and prayers!!!

  28. A perfect home doesn't mean as much if there is no one home to appreciate it?
    He'll come back but always remember it takes two. It may seem one sided now because HE left but make you you both do your part when things settle down.
    A perfect housewife has 1001 jobs. This is just one more to realize, helping the husband who helped you build your lives. Men have a huge responsibility when their jobs are nessesary to keeping us wifes & babies at home. (not at work or in day care) I've learned how much pressure there is on a man after my husband has been out of work for 9 months.

  29. This is my first time to comment here… but I have loved your blog for months… I send my hand and my arms (hug) so well written…
    you will find your light at the end of the tunnel.

  30. This is my first time to comment here… but I have loved your blog for months… I send my hand and my arms (hug) so well written…
    you will find your light at the end of the tunnel.

  31. What a courageous brave heart you have to admit your brokeness to us. To share your anger, love, doubts and anguish.
    Breath…and scream, and then breath again.
    You are our, dear-Brocantehome– vintage-housekeeper, and nothing can change that!
    There is a light at the end of this dark night, though the path may not be easy, nor without fear…steady as you go and hopefully, with my friendship (and those around you here on your blog) it will be a little easier to bear.

  32. What a courageous brave heart you have to admit your brokeness to us. To share your anger, love, doubts and anguish.
    Breath…and scream, and then breath again.
    You are our, dear-Brocantehome– vintage-housekeeper, and nothing can change that!
    There is a light at the end of this dark night, though the path may not be easy, nor without fear…steady as you go and hopefully, with my friendship (and those around you here on your blog) it will be a little easier to bear.

  33. I wish I could ease the pain. I too have a young one and a relationship that is changing in a way I never wanted.Your words bring tears to my eyes and clarity to my thoughts. Thank you for sharing. Here is my hand………….

  34. I wish I could ease the pain. I too have a young one and a relationship that is changing in a way I never wanted.Your words bring tears to my eyes and clarity to my thoughts. Thank you for sharing. Here is my hand………….

  35. Have hope and keep faith. I hope that things will work out and that you'll both be stronger for it. Take good care of yourself and little Finley.

  36. Have hope and keep faith. I hope that things will work out and that you'll both be stronger for it. Take good care of yourself and little Finley.

  37. Alison,
    I was stunned to read this. My heart is aching for you and Finley and I am so thankful that Finley has such a strong and loving mother to hold him through this.
    Please, don't feel as though you were a fraud. There is only so much we can control in our lives. This is not one of those things.
    Please be well and take good care of yourself.

  38. Alison,
    I was stunned to read this. My heart is aching for you and Finley and I am so thankful that Finley has such a strong and loving mother to hold him through this.
    Please, don't feel as though you were a fraud. There is only so much we can control in our lives. This is not one of those things.
    Please be well and take good care of yourself.

  39. Dear Alison,
    I am so sorry to hear this news. I have been here myself, I understand the ache and feelings your wrestling with. I will be praying for you, Finley and Mark. Know that you are loved by all of us vintage housekeepers, and we will stand with you and support you through this! Stay strong my friend…many hugs to you dear..

  40. This makes me sad because I know how much you hurt. All life is change whether you want it to be or not.
    Courage…

  41. This makes me sad because I know how much you hurt. All life is change whether you want it to be or not.
    Courage…

  42. I couldn't stop crying when I read this post.
    What I really believe is that man is irresponsable and selfish and you are a great woman, a woman with capital A.
    You must feel proud of yourself.

  43. I couldn't stop crying when I read this post.
    What I really believe is that man is irresponsable and selfish and you are a great woman, a woman with capital A.
    You must feel proud of yourself.

  44. Oh Alison, You have given us all so much joy with your site, it hurts to see you so sad and going through this difficult time. I know that Mark might feel overwhelmed with his job, but do not think of yourself as a fraud, because imagine how overwhelmed he would be if you were a full-time Executive and your babba was in full-time day care. I can just imagine your house being the most scrumptious one to come home to and home I hope he will come, if that is what you both decide. Hugs. Petah

  45. Oh Alison, You have given us all so much joy with your site, it hurts to see you so sad and going through this difficult time. I know that Mark might feel overwhelmed with his job, but do not think of yourself as a fraud, because imagine how overwhelmed he would be if you were a full-time Executive and your babba was in full-time day care. I can just imagine your house being the most scrumptious one to come home to and home I hope he will come, if that is what you both decide. Hugs. Petah

  46. Oh Alison, I don't know what to write really…just to say that I'm thinking of you. I've read your blog for so long now, and shared in your life a little bit – I feel I've sort of got to know you and I just really feel so hurt for you. I really hope everything works out for you. Lots of love xxx

  47. Alison, I don't know you, but your post made me cry. I know how tough your situation is, because I've been through something similar. But the point is, I survived and was a stronger, better person for it and ultimately, a happier one. You are very strong and the fact that you're writing about these struggles speaks volumes in your attempt to carve out the life you need for yourself and your son. I will be cheering on the sidelines for the resilient woman you are, as you face these challenges.

  48. Alison, I don't know you, but your post made me cry. I know how tough your situation is, because I've been through something similar. But the point is, I survived and was a stronger, better person for it and ultimately, a happier one. You are very strong and the fact that you're writing about these struggles speaks volumes in your attempt to carve out the life you need for yourself and your son. I will be cheering on the sidelines for the resilient woman you are, as you face these challenges.

  49. Oh Alison, my heart aches for you. I'm delurking to write this, as I've only *just now* posted on housekeeping in my blog and made a flip remark that I'd like to be like you. And it's true, you're a strong, brave woman and Finley and your husband (when he wakes up from his nightmare) are lucky to have you. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

  50. Oh Alison, my heart aches for you. I'm delurking to write this, as I've only *just now* posted on housekeeping in my blog and made a flip remark that I'd like to be like you. And it's true, you're a strong, brave woman and Finley and your husband (when he wakes up from his nightmare) are lucky to have you. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

  51. Stay strong Sweetie – always be true to yourself. That is all life requires from any of us.
    I am thinking of you and I will keep you in my prayers Hon.
    Take care of yourself.

  52. Stay strong Sweetie – always be true to yourself. That is all life requires from any of us.
    I am thinking of you and I will keep you in my prayers Hon.
    Take care of yourself.

  53. I am sorry to hear this news. We all send you our support. You are strong and you will see better days soon. Hang in there. HUG.

  54. Alison,
    Lots of warm hugs to you and Finley. We are here for you–lean on us in whatever way you need. I believe in fate, and maybe one of the larger purposes of this whole beautiful network YOU have created is for us to be here to help see you through this. So vent, cry, scream, fuss–whatever it is that you need to do here. We will be here listening and supporting.

  55. Alison,
    Lots of warm hugs to you and Finley. We are here for you–lean on us in whatever way you need. I believe in fate, and maybe one of the larger purposes of this whole beautiful network YOU have created is for us to be here to help see you through this. So vent, cry, scream, fuss–whatever it is that you need to do here. We will be here listening and supporting.

  56. What a strong woman you are. Thank you for your example to us all-keep walking tall for Finley's sake. Thinking of you…

  57. I just wanted to say I'm here with all your other housekeeper friends, thinking of you and sending you hugs! You deserve so much better than this.

  58. I just wanted to say I'm here with all your other housekeeper friends, thinking of you and sending you hugs! You deserve so much better than this.

  59. Oh goodness, I do so hope, for your sake, for Mark's sake, and most of all for Finley's sake, that you all manage to sort this out.
    Having a baby and an overwhelming project like BrocanteHome, plus all your recent illnesses, does put a huge strain on a marriage (we're having interesting ups and downs a the moment)but I'm so hoping things work out for you in the end. It doesn't sound to me like it's truly over.
    Thinking of you
    Paola xx

  60. Oh goodness, I do so hope, for your sake, for Mark's sake, and most of all for Finley's sake, that you all manage to sort this out.
    Having a baby and an overwhelming project like BrocanteHome, plus all your recent illnesses, does put a huge strain on a marriage (we're having interesting ups and downs a the moment)but I'm so hoping things work out for you in the end. It doesn't sound to me like it's truly over.
    Thinking of you
    Paola xx

  61. Hi Ali, I am so sorry for all the pain that you are feeling.
    I am not here to offer advice, but wholeheartedly offer you my love and support!
    I too offer you my hand, and you can squeeze as hard as you like!
    p.s. YES! You are a very strong, beautiful, smart and amazing woman 🙂

  62. Hi Ali, I am so sorry for all the pain that you are feeling.
    I am not here to offer advice, but wholeheartedly offer you my love and support!
    I too offer you my hand, and you can squeeze as hard as you like!
    p.s. YES! You are a very strong, beautiful, smart and amazing woman 🙂

  63. Alison, I just saw this because I hadn't been checking your blog since you went on hiatus.
    I don't have any words to say that everyone else hasn't already said or that you haven't thought. Only you know what to do in this situation, so all I can offer is to say strong, keep your chin up, and don't let all of those people telling you men are bastards get to you.

  64. Alison, I don't know you, and I've just started reading your very enjoyable blog, but this post moved me to the core. You sound like a strong woman, but I also know that there's a place of tenderness inside a strong woman that can be wounded. My hope is that whatever happens you emerge stronger and better for it.

  65. Oh my, dear Alison, I thought you were still taking your break and then I've just read this! *EEK* I so hope that your Mark comes to his senses and comes back to you two soon! *Fingers crossed* I send you strength! Hugs Carol xox

  66. Oh my, dear Alison, I thought you were still taking your break and then I've just read this! *EEK* I so hope that your Mark comes to his senses and comes back to you two soon! *Fingers crossed* I send you strength! Hugs Carol xox

  67. Ali,
    I have enjoyed your blog since stumbling upon it several months ago. I was saddened to read that you had suspended your blog….then happy to see that you had resumed it…then saddened again to read about you and Mark.
    I just wanted you to know that reading your post about the situation made me sad…but then I read the postcard above…. I didn't get the joke right away, but upon looking at "After the Quarrel" again, I laughed out loud, when I finally got the joke!
    Sometimes men are such jackasses!
    Here's hoping that a thousand angels surround your heart with joy and peace.
    Ali L.

  68. Ali,
    I have enjoyed your blog since stumbling upon it several months ago. I was saddened to read that you had suspended your blog….then happy to see that you had resumed it…then saddened again to read about you and Mark.
    I just wanted you to know that reading your post about the situation made me sad…but then I read the postcard above…. I didn't get the joke right away, but upon looking at "After the Quarrel" again, I laughed out loud, when I finally got the joke!
    Sometimes men are such jackasses!
    Here's hoping that a thousand angels surround your heart with joy and peace.
    Ali L.

  69. Oh my goodness, I am so so sorry. I am all teary-eyed now. I'm also sorry that I have no advice to offer, and I wish I could be there to give you a big hug. Thanks so much for your wonderful blog and all you do for others. My prayers are with you.

  70. Oh my goodness, I am so so sorry. I am all teary-eyed now. I'm also sorry that I have no advice to offer, and I wish I could be there to give you a big hug. Thanks so much for your wonderful blog and all you do for others. My prayers are with you.

  71. Dear Sweet Alison,
    Once upon a time, whilst navigating through waters similar to yours at present, I found a small but priceless buoy amidst the writings of Sarah Ban Breathnach, the lines of which I remembered, repeated, & clung to during my darkest days-nights-moments. Sometimes I could do no more than say these words to myself over & over & over until quiet or sleep would come. May they bring you an extra oar when needed along your way, & in time may your heart know them to be utterly true:
    "All shall be well.
    And all shall be well.
    And all manner of things shall be well."
    –Julia of Norwich

  72. Dear Sweet Alison,
    Once upon a time, whilst navigating through waters similar to yours at present, I found a small but priceless buoy amidst the writings of Sarah Ban Breathnach, the lines of which I remembered, repeated, & clung to during my darkest days-nights-moments. Sometimes I could do no more than say these words to myself over & over & over until quiet or sleep would come. May they bring you an extra oar when needed along your way, & in time may your heart know them to be utterly true:
    "All shall be well.
    And all shall be well.
    And all manner of things shall be well."
    –Julia of Norwich

  73. Hi Ali,Its Beckie (Your long lost cousin!!!)
    Just to let you know that I love you and am here if you need someone else to talk to. Get my number off mum!
    Big hugs to all of you, and you have my hand. xxxx

  74. I too wish I could reach "across the pond" and give you a big hug! Take care my cyber-friend. Things WILL get better…tie a knot at the end of your rope. Hugs and Love!

  75. I too wish I could reach "across the pond" and give you a big hug! Take care my cyber-friend. Things WILL get better…tie a knot at the end of your rope. Hugs and Love!

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